Currently working on: Book 4 of the Marked Souls
Mood: Knucking down
First our winner from last weeks drawing of Jessica Andersen’s signed DEMONKEEPERS and an ARC of BLOOD SPELLS. Thanks to everybody who commented, and keep an eye out. We have lots of signed copies from the RWA conference. Meanwhile, Random.org has selected….
Paula R.
Congrats, Paula! Email me at jessa at jessaslade dot com with your snail mail addy and we’ll get those books to the PO.
So the reason we have all these signed books is the annual Romance Writers of America national conference which was held at the end of July. The huge annual meeting brings together more than 2000 of RWA’s 10,000+ members. It’s like the best business sleepover party you’ve ever attended. What? You’ve never attended a business sleepover? I’m sorry. Romance writing rocks!
One of the reasons I love romance is that it’s primarily a women’s genre — written by women, for women. Sure, there are men who read and write romance, but they are –the self-confident souls – few and far between. But even the rare men at RWA (who sigh with long-suffering annoyance when the hotels turn most of the restrooms into WOMENs rooms) would, I think, agree that one of the best parts of RWA is the way the best traditional aspects of womanhood are on display to brilliant effect.
1. Nurturing
RWA’s mission statement talks about networking and advocacy and it’s so true. Without RWA, I wouldn’t be published. I learned the ropes, the rules and the Sekrit Handshake from these ladies, and they shared with generosity and enthusiasm.
2. Talking
Sure, it’s a sterotype that women love to talk. But boy, women like to talk. The chatting at a RWA conference rivals sea-going mammals for pitch and frequency. I think that’s why we were at the Dolphin Hotel in Orlando. And in all that talking, you can find the answer to any question you ever had about writing.
3. Shoes
I saw the cutest shoes — from flipflops to f-me heels — all during the conference. Next year’s conference in New York will probably bring out the really big guns with the really high heels. I had cute footwear too, but I can’t find any pictures to prove it.

Since this week here at Silk And Shadows, we’re talking about what we’ve learned from RWA and similar conferences, I also wanted to issue a warning as well. I started writing in a more innocent time and now I think belonging to reputable organizations like RWA — or groups involved in whatever your passion is – is more important than ever. With the expansion of the World Wide Web, there is more misinformation and more scammers who have ready access to eager writers, and it is terrifyingly easy for newcomers to be taken.
I have an acquaintance who came to me for writing advice, failed to follow up with any of the websites I gave her, and invested time and money in a vanity “publisher” who made her sign a contract that doesn’t guarantee any tangible results — like, oh say, a freakin’ BOOK. Luckily, she finally did check the Preditors & Editors link I gave her and found that her “publisher” was listed as Highly Not Recommended (in orange, no less). She feels embarrassed and discouraged, and they are already sending her vaguely threatening emails demanding more money.
Good professional organizations teach you and help you explore options to reach your goals. Great organizations give you the strength to hold out until you can make your dreams come true. For me, RWA has been great.
If you belong to a great group — quilters, bakers, candlestick makers – give ‘em a shout-out here. Maybe someone else will see the link and find a supportive outlet for their passion.
I’ll kick it off by suggsting the Yahoo Group for fans of the Dog Whisperer, Cesar Milan for anyone with a dog with “issues.” For the first six months of her life, my dog thought her name was “Don’t Bite.” She was a terrible puppy. I found this group and within another six months, she graduated to “Monster Girl” but said fondly. Hey, that’s improvement.



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